Saw a post that I feel must be addressed..
here is what the post said & below that is my response.
“HAPPY FATHERS DAY To All Of The Men…
Boys ask questions… Men give answers!!!
Boys play house… Men build homes!!!
Boys shack up… Men get married!!!
Boys make babies… Men raise children!!!
A Boy won’t raise his own children… A Man will raise his and someone else’s!!!
Boys invent excuses for failure… Men produce strategies for success!!!
Boys look for somebody to take care of them… Men look for someone to take care of!!!
Boys seek popularity… Men demand respect and know how to give it…”
Sorry I don’t buy it … believing Most of that is what sets relationships up for failure!
I’ve seen “men” that qualify more as boys & boys that qualify as men according to some socially acceptable standards.
To me, the term man or boy,just as the terms girl/woman, refers to an age group not the qualities of either.
Men don’t always have an answer & that’s ok..
Not all men build homes/get married
Not all boys play house/shack up
Sometimes a “boy” will raise children & a “man” won’t..
So what are the definitions of boy vs man?
Definition of boy [boi] noun
1. a male child, from birth to full growth, especially one less than 18 years of age.
2. a young man who lacks maturity, judgment, etc.
3. Informal. a grown man, especially when referred to familiarly: He liked to play poker with the boys.
4. a son: Sam’s oldest boy is helping him in the business.
5. a male who is from or native to a given place.
6. boys, ( used with a singular or plural verb )
- a. a range of sizes from 8 to 20 in garments made for boys.
- b. a garment in this size range.
- c. the department or section of a store where these garments are sold.
7. boys, military personnel, especially combat soldiers: Support the boys overseas.
8. Disparaging and Offensive. a man considered by the speaker to be inferior in race, nationality, or occupational status.
9. a young male servant; page.
10. Offensive. (in India, China, Japan, etc.) a native male servant, working as a butler, waiter, houseboy, etc.
11. Nautical . an apprentice seaman or fisherman.
Definition of MAN
- (1) : an individual human; especially : an adult male human
- (2) : a man belonging to a particular category (as by birth, residence, membership, or occupation) —usually used in combination <councilman>
- (3) : husband (4) : lover
b : the human race : humankind
c : a bipedal primate mammal (Homo sapiens) that is anatomically related to the great apes but distinguished especially by notable development of the brain with a resultant capacity for articulate speech and abstract reasoning, is usually considered to form a variable number of freely interbreeding races, and is the sole living representative of the hominid family; broadly : any living or extinct hominid
- (1) : one possessing in high degree the qualities considered distinctive of manhood
- (2) obsolete : the quality or state of being manly : manliness
f —used interjectionally to express intensity of feeling <man, what a game>
- a : individual, person <a man could get killed there>
- b : the individual who can fulfill or who has been chosen to fulfill one’s requirements <she’s your man>
- a : a feudal tenant : vassal
- b : an adult male servant
- c plural : the working force as distinguished from the employer and usually the management
- a : one of the distinctive objects moved by each player in various board games
- b : one of the players on a team
5 : an alumnus of or student at a college or university <a Bowdoin man>
6 Christian Science : the compound idea of infinite Spirit : the spiritual image and likeness of God : the full representation of Mind
7 often capitalized : police <when I heard the siren, I knew it was the Man — American Speech>
8 often capitalized : the white establishment : white society <surprise that any black … should take on so about The Man — Peter Goldman>
9 : one extremely fond of or devoted to something specified <strictly a vanilla ice cream man>
- — man·less adjective
- — man·like adjective
- — as one man
: with the agreement and consent of all : unanimously
— one’s own man
: free from interference or control
— to a man
: without exception
Examples of MAN
- He was a shy boy, but he grew to be a strong and confident man.
- He’s a grown man now.
- The movie is popular with men and women.
- Don’t cry, little boy: be a man!
- Are you man enough to meet the challenge?
Origin of MAN
Middle English, from Old English man, mon human being, male human; akin to Old High German man human being, Sanskrit manu
First Known Use: before 12th century
Definition of MANLY
2: appropriate in character to a man <manly sports>
— man·li·ness noun
What I’m trying to say here is that:
depending on what your definition of a boy/man girl/woman & what you were taught as a child, (to expect from a relationship),
will determine if it’s successful or not.
It takes TWO to make babies,
It takes TWO to build homes, relationships, families, etc.
It takes BOTH working together & not giving up at the first little sign of rough times to make it,
BELIEVING in each other,
TRUSTING each other,
Fighting for LOVE itself.
Yes, there comes a time when things have gone so wrong that it’s better to walk away than stay & make things worse.
But FIRST you have to BOTH give it all you’ve got.
Too often we are taught that it’s the man’s fault if things go wrong..
Sorry, but it’s ALSO possible that it’s the female’s fault.
It’s ALSO possible that it’s no one’s fault.
Sometimes we put Blame where NON is warranted.
April Foulks ~ Lady Kira